Therapy for Adult Children of Narcissistic and Emotionally Immature Parents
Online therapy for adults in Colorado, Washington, Oregon, New York, and Florida
When You Weren’t Seen or Heard
You spent your early years trying to protect yourself—reading the moods around you, avoiding upset, seeking approval, and often feeling the need to be invisible or perfect. Your parent may have been self-absorbed, critical, unpredictable, or demanding, leaving little room for your needs or feelings.
Now, you find yourself second-guessing your thoughts, replaying conversations, feeling anxious or numb, and blaming yourself—even when it’s not your fault. Trusting your own perceptions feels hard. Boundaries feel confusing. Relationships feel hard.
Sometimes you don’t even know what you want or feel—just that something feels off. And deep down, there's a grief you rarely name—the ache for the parent and family you always needed and never had.
This Didn't Start With You—But Healing Can
When a parent is emotionally immature or narcissistic, the entire family system centers around their needs. As a child, you adapted in whatever way helped you survive. Maybe you kept yourself small and compliant to keep the peace—or maybe you spoke up, expressed anger, became the family’s truth-teller, and over time, became the family’s scapegoat. What once helped you survive may no longer be serving you today.
Therapy goes beyond just understanding these patterns—it helps you experience healing in your body, emotions, and relationships. We begin by creating a sense of safety within, then gently explore and heal the different parts of yourself that developed to cope with pain and protect you. By listening to these parts with compassion, you can release old messages and beliefs that still influence your life. This process also helps you understand and reshape the attachment patterns formed in childhood that continue to affect your relationships today.
You Can Build a Life That Feels Authentically Yours
Much of this work involves making sense of the family dynamics you grew up with—so you can stop absorbing the dysfunction and start seeing it for what it is. Whether you're choosing to stay connected, create space, or step away completely, therapy can support you in navigating those choices in a way that honors your true self.
You don’t have to keep living out the roles you once had to play. Together, we’ll work to reconnect you with your authentic self so you can move forward with clarity, confidence, and inner strength.
Through this process, you’ll begin to:
Give yourself the care, attunement, and support you didn’t receive growing up
Understand how your early family dynamics shaped your beliefs, behaviors, and relationships
Heal and integrate survival strategies that once protected you and now hold you back
Develop new, secure ways of relating by healing early attachment wounds
Trust yourself and your intuition
Set boundaries without drowning in guilt
Feel grounded, clear, and confident in your decisions
Reclaim your voice—and use it
Discover what brings you joy, meaning, and ease
Feel connected to your body and at peace in your own skin
Let go of who you had to be and become who you truly are
Ready to begin this work?
Reclaiming your sense of self after a childhood shaped by emotional neglect or narcissistic parenting is possible—and you don’t have to figure it out alone. If you're looking for healing, clarity, and more connected relationships, you're in the right place.
Hit Get Started to learn what to expect, get answers to common questions, and reach out when you’re ready.